Prevent graph jitter from rapidly changing structure

[rosofo]

if different frames contain different objects/relationships, the graph will change and relayout. We need to make the layout stable or otherwise accommodate this case, otherwise the graph jitters and is unreadable

[rosofo]

reproduction

https://8f2f5074-jacket-storybook.rsforbes0.workers.dev/?path=/story/repro-jitter--primary