chore: upgrade Trino to 481

[LuciferYang]

Summary

• upgrade Trino to 481 and move the build to Java 25
• align related Airlift, Netty, gRPC, Protobuf, AWS SDK, Testcontainers, and Arrow dependencies
• update connector code and tests for the Trino 481 APIs and Arrow allocation behavior
• tighten Lance runtime resource cleanup for cached sessions, datasets, and abandoned write transactions

Verification

• git diff --check
• MAVEN_OPTS='-Djava.net.preferIPv4Stack=true' ./mvnw -q -pl plugin/trino-lance -DskipTests package
• MAVEN_OPTS='-Djava.net.preferIPv4Stack=true' ./mvnw -q -pl plugin/trino-lance -Dtest=TestArrowAllocationManager,TestLanceMetadata,TestLanceArrowToPageScanner,TestLanceFragmentPageSource test
• MAVEN_OPTS='-Djava.net.preferIPv4Stack=true' ./mvnw -q -pl plugin/trino-lance dependency:analyze-only

[jtuglu1]

let's get a separate release out for this, want to make sure we have a 476 stable release on lance-core v7 before upgrading to 481.